How are men taught this thing called “masculinity”? The more apt question is: how aren’t they? It’s inculcated into them in movies, books, ads. In cultural scenario after scenario where being a “real” man is being rich, powerful, dominant, acquisitive, and materialistic. Christian Grey was so sexy — he was a billionaire who’d tie you up! Be tied up if you want to be tied up — but does having a billionaire abuse you really add to the thrill? Maybe you see my point. The superhero movies, the video games, education itself. All these things have become flashpoints in a “culture war” precisely because that is how little boys are taught to be “real men,” and being a real man means, above all, being entitled to dominion over bodies, and using violence if your expectations aren’t met.
Outstanding article as usual Umair!
Profound , powerful, illuminating, actionable - big fan of your work. Your writing seems so personal and effecting and really brings out the angst that am sure many women feel. Your writing is so lucid, it's almost poetic! Excellent research with perfect examples - bookmarking this for future referral.
Somewhat tangentially, as outlined in Caroline Perez's excellent "Invisible Women", women do 75% of the global unpaid work. Women have always worked (paid and unpaid) but the traditional workplace hasn’t worked for women. It is tailored to an unencumbered worker, i.e., the male default. Because seeing humans as men is the default.
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